Parenting is the hardest yet most worthwhile job you can ever have. Oftentimes it resembles a roller-coaster ride fluctuating with tremendous joys & challenges.
All parents, especially those with children & adolescents diagnosed with ADHD, learning disabilities, mild ASD, anxiety, bi-polar & attachment disorder may experience that roller-coaster climb & descend daily.
The ride never ends – but parenting with positivity allows you to successfully enjoy that roller coaster ride with all its up, downs, spirals & flips.
Does this sound familiar?
• Your kids are constantly fighting.
• You are yelling way too much.
• You're repeating yourself a million times a day.
• You've tried removing privileges, grounding, threats & bribing to get your children to behave, but nothing works.
• You & your partner don’t agree on parenting & are looking for some direction.
• You worry it’s going to get worse & unsure what to do next.
• You find yourself overwhelmed, stressed & at your wits end. It feels like a endless struggle!
What is Positive Parenting?
You will discover strength-based attachment strategies to promote relationships of support, love, positive communication, structure, consistency & connection. In sessions you will:
• Explore the developmental brain, the language of positivity, how to achieve self- regulation, what to say & do to reduce your child’s/teen’s meltdowns & power struggles, how to increase their self-esteem, character building & more!
• Learn to maintain the Attitude of P.L.A.C.E. which incorporates 5 core qualities for healthy parent-child connection. When consistently utilized, this allows you to relate to your children with greater patience and understanding of their behavior & respond appropriately rather than becoming reactive.
Parent with the Attitude of P.L.A.C.E
Using the PLACE mentality is one way of reducing the number of triggers for your child, not to mention that it just makes parenting more fun. The PLACE mentality stands for: Playful, Loving, Accepting, Curious, Empathic.
Playful – Oftentimes being playful can help dial emotions & difficult situations down a notch. Play is the magical glue that connects families through joined attention, laughter & fun.
Loving – Unconditional.
Accepting – To see your child beyond their behavior.
Curious – A “not knowing” stance that requires you to inquire about your child’s inner feelings that led to the concerned behavior. Be a “feelings detective.” Tell children you ask lots of questions because you are a very curious person & sometimes it takes you a while to understand things. “I’m curious what got you so mad because I don’t want you to feel that way again.” (accepting & then empathizing)
Empathy – It's important that you are comfortable with emotions your child is experiencing. This is a critical response to being with your child & his/her feeling of being “felt.” Empathy is being able to see something from the viewpoint of another person. It does not involve any discussion about whether someone is right or wrong for feeling the way they are feeling. “If I thought someone felt that way about me or said that to me, I can see how you would feel mad/sad/ scared too.”
Kick Your Parenting Up a Notch: Adopt the Four “S's" - Tools That Work with Children Up Through Adolescence
Your children need to be:
• Seen - Not just seeing them with your eyes - it means perceiving them deeply & empathically - sensing the mind/feeling behind their behavior "mindsight."
• Safe - Avoiding actions & responses that frighten, shame or hurt them.
• Soothed - Helping them deal with difficult emotions & situations.
• Secure - Helping them develop an internalized sense of well-being.
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